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This Week On Red Table Talk: Black Women and White Women Should Be Calling Each Other Cousin

Jada.Pinkett.Smith. is stepping into the Phylicia Rashad/Claire Huxtable level of serving lessons the way, she raised the consciousness IQ of everyone that has watched her show yesterday. FIRST things first, we must recognize a quote that was stated on the show "prejudice is the emotional commitment to ignorance" which was read by Pinkett-Smith's mother, Adrienne Banfield-Jones. Banfield-Jones owned her past and previous prejudice against white women as did Jada. The conversation at the Red Table opened up the Pandora's Box of raw resentment rooted in the racial divide between Black and White women.

Adrienne tells a story from her childhood that reveals the pain of why she has unpleasant feelings toward white women. She says, "I remember growing up and not being able to go downtown and try on hats, different places we weren't allowed to go in, in our own neighborhood. It still bites, "I just have a lot of anger."

Then Jada followed up with her own story of being made fun of by white girls when she was younger and she added to her mother's comment on anger, saying, "I do too. I have a lot of pain and hurt attached to some of the experiences I had as well,"

She continues to talk and opens up about her experience dealing with a racist encounter with two white Virginia Beach police officers. She states "I was there by myself, terrified, trying to get back to my hotel," she remembered. "I will never forget these two white officers, they said, 'You better get your n----- bitch ass off this street right now.'" Smith added that, that was specifically the "white male experience" she's had, saying it's "different" with white women.

Jada moves on from her experience with white men and gets in depth about the problems that are unaddressed between white and black women. She makes a point, saying " What crushes me, especially in regards to my relationship with white women, the thing that really breaks my heart is that white women understand what it feels to be oppressed because of their sex," she added, "what it feels to be ostracized."

After the women discuss their personal experiences, they invite a white female producer of Jada's show, Annie, and well known diversity educator Jane Elliott. The conversation changes speed and becomes informative for both sides. Annie admits that she has no clue when she is experiencing her privilege and how to start a conversation about race without accidentally offending someone. She also expresses that she doesn't understand racism.

Jane Elliott enters the room immediately addressing Annie's ignorance with a simple question. She asks "Do you know how to read?" She shuts down ignorance, the myth of white superiority, the education system in the US that perpetuates white superiority, and the idea that the world has more than one race. She firmly tells the women at the table that there is only one race, the human race and we should all be calling each other cousins because we all come from the same great, great, great, great, great African grandmother. Elliott makes the women turn to their left and shake the hand of the woman next to them and say "Hey cousin".

This episode brought up a lot of unspoken truths that need to be spoken about between both groups, Black women, white women and also all women. Albert Einstein said that "We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." The lesson to be taken away from this episode of Red Table Talk is we all belong to the same race, period.

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